How to Empower Others 3

What Mentoring is not

  • Advise giving
  • Teaching or lecturing
  • Counseling or therapy
  • Healing/fixing others

Build Trust

  • It takes time.

Mindsets of coaching others

  1. Ever behavior has a positive intention
    • Don't guess people's intention
  2. Behavior is geared towards adaptation.
  3. Respect the other person's model of the world, even if you don't understand it.
    • Made over a long time, person will hold on to it, work from it.
  4. Accept the person, encourage changes in attitude and behavior
    • Separate the person and behavior.
  5. There are no bad people, just unhelpful attitudes, habits and behaviors.
  6. Nobody is inflexible, they are just rigid thinkers
  7. People make the best choice that they can at that time
  8. People respond to their experiences, not to reality itself.
  9. Everyone is doing their best with the resources that they have
  10. All coaching must aid maturity, decisiveness and strength of character

How can you make someone feel enabled?

  1. No Judgement
  2. Authentic Listening
  3. Coming from a space of care
  4. Holding Space
  5. Being consistent

Goal-Setting Process/framework

Stage 1. Getting a vision for life Stage 2. Knowing what they want Stage 3. Defining your future goals Stage 4. Preparing an action plan Stage 5. Review, adapt and adjust.


  • Specific
  • Measurable
  • Achievable
  • Relevant
  • Time-bound

Problem solving Process

  1. Define problem
    • What is the issue.
    • Define, re-define
    • Are you worried about the problem of how you feel towards of it.
  2. Analyze problem
  3. Identify solutions
    • Let them come up with solution
    • If there are no lack of resources, what would you do
    • What are your options.
    • Synthesize a solution from this list.
  4. Choose Solution
  5. Plan of action
  6. Implement

Other Notes